Tumblr genuinely is younger than most other social platforms, and more diverse. A greater proportion of its users are people of colour than on any other major platform. Women users make up a higher percentage than anywhere else bar Pinterest. Teenagers over-index dramatically. And while Pew and other research agencies don’t tend to ask about sexuality or gender identification, LGBT visibility in Tumblr fandom is very high. What looks to dim outsiders as some kind of obsession with “social justice” often just springs from people talking about themselves, their lives and the shit that happens to them."
—Just one of many excellent parts in this piece by Tom Ewing
(which is only a little bit about Tumblr.)
Anonymous said: "Why did you get your 'I must not tell lies' tattoo?"
I had a personal problem for a number of years about which I could not tell anyone the truth. OotP helped me cope with that problem and make some progress towards solving it. The tattoo was naturally resonant with that experience on multiple levels.
Anonymous said: "How do you explain Sirius TRYING TO KILL SNAPE when they were sixteen"
In adolescence, the connections between the frontal lobe and the rest of the brain are not yet completely developed, so a sixteen-year-old’s ability to gauge the consequences of their actions is impeded. Take a rash character like Sirius’s, and you’ve got a recipe for poor decision making. In this case very, very poor decision making.
Like I’m not saying you shouldn’t hold it against him. But chances are he wouldn’t have been pleased with the outcome (had James not intervened).
thegirlwiththeloontattoo said: "I think it's brave to get attached. Maybe I'm justifying a bad pattern, but you have to live, and you can't live closed up. People who stay detached, who think it's stronger, they're only looking at it from one side, and it may not even be the healthier side. I think it's screwy that anyone, any man, can think it's okay to have sex with a person and not respect them or connect with them. It's inauthentic and superficial and misogynistic. /minirant"
Making this public because you’re awesome and I totally agree!!
O.o women can and do have sex without “respecting” or not connecting to that person
i am just gobsmacked by this statement
Ok ok you know what, I apologize.
I agree with both. Some get attached, some don’t.
I personally have a hard time not getting attached and it sucks.
Women can, but it isn’t a pattern recognized and celebrated (cf. the much loved Barney Stinson) by our society; no one calls the disrespected men crazy or needy, no one calls them slut. There is no existing history of men being divided into two categories: good for sex, good for marriage (cf. the Madonna-whore complex). I think most women recognize their sexual partners as human and of *value* even if the exchange is casual. You have to experience some kind of connection with someone to enter into a situation that, to paraphrase Louis ck, statistically could lead to your death.